Sling when you’re winning
You must tell the mums! Tell them! I was urged by our oh-so-hippy ex-GP. (He now runs the village farmers’ market and is gung-ho about unpasteurised milk and passionate about the village pig project.) I’m not entirely certain which mums he means, given that surely anybody who was interested would be quite capable of googling – these days there is an enormous array of websites dedicated to the black art of what I refuse to call babywearing – or approaching me on the street; an event that occurs about once every 3 weeks. (In between I am approached by elderly people who wish I would carry them.)
With hindsight, I should have started selling baby slings when M was tiny: if only a fraction of the people who enquired actually went on to buy one from me I’d still be well ahead. There just weren’t the options then; these days there are millions of different sling designs and manufacturers and websites. Unlike some dedicated shoppers, I only have four slings, and one other passed briefly through my hands before being sold on. The one in this photo was our first; bought in Japan (and look, here is baby Maggie in it), it is an Israeli-design stretchy wrap. A sling of some sort was essential in Tokyo, where subway stations often had two or three flights of stairs and no lift (and I learnt from bitter experience that you could stand at the bottom of a flight of stairs looking plaintively at your buggy for a really long time before anybody offered to help.) It’s just about 6 metres of black jersey with a pocket at the front and rings to fasten the ends together. Cameron’s sling of choice, as it is fast and easy to put on; my favourite for a tiny baby. The stretch means you can put the carrier on first then put the baby in – so great for a newborn who might pop up and down over the course of a day – but also makes it less supportive so it isn’t so good once baby is heavy.
My current favourite for Jenny is a didymos, a woven wrap (no photos of this one yet but it is stylishly black and silver). I wrap it in almost the same way as the stretchy, but around the baby as it doesn’t stretch to accommodate. I like it very much but wish it too had rings to fasten as I end up with a bulky knot at the back when I tie it.
Number three is a maya wrap, which I have yet to put Jenny in. I did use it for a newborn Tamsin but it really comes into its own for older babies and younger toddlers; I keep it in the back of the car, or carry it if we go for a walk, as it is so easy to just pop them in and out. I dislike the one-shoulderedness of it and am aware you should swap sides but like my handbag only really feel happy with it over the right side.
I’ve just come to number four and realised with a blush that actually we seem to have five. Blame baby brain even if it no longer officially exists. My fourth style of sling is a meitai, basically a square of fabric with four strap attached to the four corners (you can get meitais with wrap-style straps, padded straps, unpadded straps, head rests, rain covers… mine is just basic.) It’s pretty, in pink spotty satin, and I like it best to put babies on my back. In principle one can wrap onto one’s back but I don’t find it that comfortable; the meitai just feels right. (This is Tamsin again.)
(Lastly, I have a second woven wrap; it’s a turquoise and silver gauze which is supposedly cool for summer but was fundamentally bought because it is pretty. The only photo I have of this one – the curse of being the family photographer – is appallingly hippy.)
March 8th, 2010 16:45
Nice hat! There was a sling-baby at my workshop this weekend. She was the most comfortable and happy baby I have ever seen. Perhaps selling slings should be your future project. I think part of the reason they’re not more popular is that you can’t go into a store and try them out, or at least not very easily, and not a wide range of them. A sling library or try-before-you-buy scheme would be so good.
March 9th, 2010 14:41
‘scuse my ignorance, but how do you manage to get the baby in the sling on your back? Can you do it by yourself or do you need assistance?
March 9th, 2010 14:56
Very true, more people would use slings if they could try before they buy or at least see some in the shops. You can hire slings online, though. I was going to do that, but ended up getting a loaner from a friend.
Think I’ve only got three at the moment, amazingly!
March 9th, 2010 16:59
Rachel, I can do it myself. You can see all sorts of methods on youtube – some people sling ’em over their shoulder like santa’s sack! – but I sit them on one hip then slide them round. It’s all about confidence 🙂 I did it once in Starbucks and heard this sort of collective gasp – when I looked up every person in there was watching me!
March 10th, 2010 10:51
I love our slings. My favourite is probably still the stretchy Moby wrap we used when the small girl was, well, smaller; now we mostly use the brown velvet Eden mei tai, and it’s great. I have also experienced that collective gasp you get when you basically chuck a small baby over your shoulder for a back carry. 🙂
I also have a Storchenwiege stripy wrap, which is lovely but a bit of a faff because it’s HUGE (they’d sold out of everything but the 7.2m when I bought it), and we too have the Maya ring sling you mentioned (mine has a padded shoulder; I’m less sure about this, I have to say, and quite wish I’d tried the unpadded – seem to remember you have the unpadded but wanted to try the padded, so care to swap as a trial?).
I’ve also tried a couple of quite dire (in my experience) Wilkinet examples – just couldn’t get on with them at all, so they were passed on quite quickly after coming to us from NCT sales.
I can never believe that most people don’t even consider a sling; they’re so much better than pushchairs if you live in the sticks, and I’d really miss not carrying the small girl.
March 10th, 2010 14:38
EW: let’s swap!